Thursday 28 January 2016

Three Most Common Parenting Mistakes When Raising Daughters

Daughters are almighty of gods, princesses destined to be queens, wonderful story in everybody life, out of all they are humans. The way she is grown matters a lot. Raising a daughter is raising a very big wall that this society cant break it out.

1.Expecting the worst!


The message we give girls is that they are 'good' only if they are not doing any 'bad' things such as doing drugs, having sex or hanging around with the wrong crowd. Many parents approach a girl who attained her puberty as ordeal, believing they can only watch helplessly as their lovable girl turns out into unpredictable monster. Instead of  expecting all the worst to happen for girl you can focus on her interest, believe them to such extend they should feel guilty of doing something wrong. Every parent should open  new way of communication to reconnect with young girls.


2. Teach her to be an entrepreneur and not a daughter in law!


Good life for a girl doesn't come after getting married. It truly comes when a girl professionally succeed in her career. She should be respected in this society. If u educate a woman we educate a family. Marriage is not a girl's destiny, please don't fed up a girl with family responsibilities, till she reaches a good financial independence and career. Girls are not meant for males lust, and not a slave to a male's family. Don't teach her do's and don'ts in her mother in laws home instead her do's and don'ts in a corporate society. Make her an entrepreneur.

3. Sex is not a bad word!


The word sex is polished in this society like a word an unmarried women should never ever hear. Its a very wrong aspect. Every girls should know the difference between a good touch and bad touch. If not she is well educated about the sex  then she fell  as prey to rapist. Indian women are worshiped as goddess in India but at the same time hourly rape cases are also filed here in India. Rapists are not given proper punishments too. Never say your daughter to wear dress properly instead teach every male to see women as a god is a very kind note to all here. I wish to share an article that I read where an women expressed her view how she felt U.S as heaven when she traveled out of country after experiencing some harassment( given the link below)
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/nri/citizen-journalists/citizen-journalists-reports/pragyan-debadarshini/Growing-up-as-a-woman-in-India-and-living-in-US/articleshow/23812006.cms

                             " Women are the real architects of the society"




What I want my husband to be in order for him to be an Ideal Father

Hurray Its a girl! When a male hear it from the gynecologist, his happiness was boundless! Because he knows, his daughter's first love is going to me none other, Its himself! Now as a Mother of my young little girl, I had few expectation how my husband should be.

1. Be a Warrior! Protect her!!


My husband should be the real head of the family, Real head means he should be a warrior in battle, who struggles for  country's happiness. Here Struggle does not meant to fight, Its like providing a secured, emotional and moral support for his wife and kid.

2. Teacher!!!


Naah surely does not mean a man with stick and chalk .It does not value how smart my husband is, if his knowledge is not ready to get shared with my kid, He should be a teacher. He should share his knowledge , moral values with my kid so that she herself starts taking decision.

3. Treat me as Queen!!


Hae man its not a selfish thought of mine!! This is to lay a strong foundation in your daughter's heart about your son in law's care for her and to your son its a role model how to treat his wife. So Its must you should be a good care taker towards your relationship with your wife.

4. God Exists!!


Be a spiritual leader man, Teach her that god truly exists and he keeps watching us, So that when your kid loses all the support in this world still she/he have hope that world exists because god exists still.

5.Be a kid!!


Hae man you are grownup but not my kid. Be patient, Possess good tolerance. I wish as if my husband loses some 20 years from his current age, so that he gives better company to my kid. Yup kid expects child like thoughts from parents. Nothing gonna work out in teaching them something that is more than their age.


6. Guide my kid on what she is!


I wish my husband is to guide my kid on what she s really interested, I don't want my husband to make my girl fed up in future towards what he wished in his life to do. I dont want an ambitious kid , I want a talented kid, and want a help from him. Our kids are not you or me, stick to this reality.

7. Let my kid makes mistake!!


I am a women who believes mistakes are the stepping stone of success, so please let her do mistakes. End of each mistake gives a solution, that helps in decision making. Let her decide what to do and what not to do? But to certain level, guide her to solve the mistake.

8. Spend time please!


we don't bother how much you earn, how much you sleep, how much you have good time with your friends, The time you spent with us is the quality time we measure with.

" A truly rich man is the one whose kid runs into his arms, even when his hands are empty"